I’m not a writer. In fact the last time I had formally written something was for my capstone class in grad school in 2012. So when I enthusiastically agreed to write something for our wedding website, afterwards I asked myself, “What was I thinking?!” My wonderful and beautiful fiancée is a WEDDING PLANNER who already knows all of this! But here it goes, from the beginning.
Erin and I met through eHarmony, a website I had told myself I would never use. But I had just moved to Illinois and I told myself “What the hell? Go for it!” I remember logging in one day to a waiting “wink and message” from Erin!! I excitedly clicked on her message and saw her picture and thought she was pretty cute! I read her profile and noticed we had a lot on common. Even better!! We started talking through the website, then we started talking on the phone (I asked for her number first). When the day came that we both were certain that we sounded somewhat normal and not completely crazy, we agreed that we should go on our first date.
The rest as they say is history, because not long after our date (which was a wonderful success), I had spoken to both of my parents and I told them, “I think I found her.” As time went on, I met Erin’s parents, Dave and Marlene, two wonderful people, and Erin met my parents, Joe and Olivia. Given the thumbs up from both family and friends, it wasn’t long after when I was bombarded with the question “Have you asked her yet?”
I bought the ring a couple months out and, for fear of losing it or Erin finding it, had been carrying it around with me since. Now I was going through the arduous task of planning the most romantic and best proposal one can think of. Because, as you know, you only get to ask once, right?! So I had better make it perfect.
I had so many scenarios in my head. Riding in on a giant black steed!?!..... No, that won’t work. Renting out a private boat and having a very romantic dinner!?!..... No, I can’t swing that… it’s winter! There aren’t any boats out. How about taking her in front of the Christmas tree in downtown Chicago and asking her there!?!.... Too cliché, plus she mentioned before she would hate a public proposal. So what do I do!?
Then I remembered last year when we had gone to the Lincoln Park Zoo to see the lights. We had a ball when we went. Plus I had heard this year that they were having a Ferris wheel! That’s perfect! We will go see the lights at the zoo and, while at the top of the Ferris wheel overlooking Chicago and all the beautiful lights, I would ask her. It’s perfect...
Unfortunately, that’s not how the evening played out. We were on our way to the zoo and the night was turning out to be a disaster. We had run a few errands before going to the zoo, and then arrived to find that the zoo was closed to the public for a private event. Erin was disappointed. On our Uber ride back to my car, we were separated... I was in the front and Erin was in the back. Erin was getting even more annoyed because our driver was loudly talking on her phone in another language the entire ride and the rider next to Erin was blasting their music to drown out the driver’s conversation. I was getting angry text messages from Erin… Oh no! All my plans of asking were totally busted and we had just arrived back at my car. It was at that moment that I told myself... “Ok, just do it!” This ring had been burning a hole in my pocket for too long. I had all these plans and was too excited. I couldn't wait any longer. I pulled out a little gift wrapped box from my coat, got out of the car, went to Erin’s side, opened her door, got down on one knee on the curb. Erin was hysterically laughing at this point, since she realized what was happening and that the night didn't turn out at all as I must have expected. While on one knee I asked, “Will you marry me?”
Was is perfect? No. Was it romantic? Possibly. But did it work? Absolutely! Because she said “YES!”